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Max St John

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4 days ago

Free talk: Leading without Drama

I’m holding an online talk on the 5th December, introducing the drama triangle and how it can inform your relationships at work and at home. — Just a brief note to let you know I’ll be running a talk and discussion on the 5th December at 13.00 GMT. I’ll be going over the fundamentals of the Drama Triangle and how you can use it to understand difficult conversations and tricky relationships. The Drama Triangle is a…

Conflict

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Free talk: Leading without Drama
Free talk: Leading without Drama
Conflict

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Nov 15

What can we agree on?

There is (almost) always middle ground, even when you are completely at odds with someone else’s point of view. In my latest podcast, I explore what it takes to find that space. Inspired by listening to a debate between two parties, seemingly with completely opposing opinions, I decided to explore…

Conflict

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What can we agree on?
What can we agree on?
Conflict

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Jun 9

New podcast: Finding Steady Ground

I’ve wanted to start a podcast for some time but held off because the idea just wasn’t clear or urgent enough. But, after discovering Substack and porting some of my writing over there, it just happened. This series, and the name of the space I’ve created for it, is called…

Podcast

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New podcast: Finding Steady Ground
New podcast: Finding Steady Ground
Podcast

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How to fight well

·Feb 27

A map for conflict

Introducing a tool for navigating any difficult situation. — I’m relaunching my course: How to Fight Well with a new addition — the Fight Cards. It starts 14th March and you can book a place here I know that every conflict I face — within myself or with others — offers me invaluable insight that can radically improve my…

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A map for conflict
A map for conflict

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How to fight well

·Jan 14

Let your kids fight

Why we need to get better at managing our own issues with conflict before trying to sort our our kids’ fights. I’ve been teaching conflict and communication to people for years, in all sorts of challenging corporate environments. I’ve had people walk out of workshops and unhappy stakeholders shout at…

Nvc

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Let your kids fight
Let your kids fight
Nvc

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How to fight well

·Jan 9

How to say “No”.

A short course on getting better at boundaries. — Saying “No” makes many people feel uncomfortable. But when you say “Yes” to the wrong things, everybody suffers. Yet it’s still so easy to end up saying yes — even if that means we are compromising our needs by committing ourselves to something we don’t actually need or want to…

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How to say “No”.
How to say “No”.

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Jul 5, 2021

Getting better at boundaries

How to understand what your boundaries are and to get better at standing by them, for less stress and a more creative life. — Being boundaried is not just about pushing back on the things you can’t accept. When we have a clear sense of our own boundaries, we have a clear sense of who we…

Conflict Resolution

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Getting better at boundaries
Getting better at boundaries
Conflict Resolution

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How to fight well

·Jul 9, 2020

The unhelpfulness of helping.

There’s a model in psychology called ‘The Drama Triangle’, created by someone called Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It gives us a way of understanding patterns and roles within relationships. In it we learn about three archetypes that all of us slip into at some point: the victim, the…

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Why you need to stop helping.
Why you need to stop helping.

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Nov 12, 2019

Video: Why we all need to stop worrying about climate change.

A few months ago, I wrote a blog post that developed a life of its own. …

Climate Change

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Climate Change

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How to fight well

·Jul 24, 2019

How to act wisely in conflict

When we’re triggered we feel urged to act immediately. But those actions often come with unintended, unhelpful consequences. Here’s how to change that. — (This is part two of a series on how to engage in healthy conflict, as taught in my practice of How to fight well — you may like to read Part One first). Your heart rate’s up, your mind is racing, you’re feeling angry or scared. Someone else — a…

Self Improvement

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How to act wisely in conflict
How to act wisely in conflict
Self Improvement

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Max St John

Max St John

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I teach people how to navigate conflict and have conversations that matter. www.maxstjohn.com

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