Back to (fight) school
Announcing two more rounds of How to Fight Well for 2018, an online course teaching you how to find balance, ease and truth in conflict.
So this year three cohorts have passed through How to Fight Well and after a healthy pause in July/August, I’ve scheduled two more runs of the course for 2018 starting in September and November.
How to Fight Well is for anyone who knows they need to work on their relationship with conflict (so pretty much anyone except liars and psychopaths).
We’ve had directors of organisations, experienced coaches and conflict mediators learning alongside parents and partners.
Everyone who’s come on the course so far has had a unique and different set of issues with fighting well, but there are some common themes.
Some people have trouble facing up to the conversations they know they need to have and often avoid any possibility of conflict.
Some people have trouble speaking up and saying what’s on their mind — allowing other, stronger voices to silence them.
Some people have trouble moderating their reaction in conflict situations, ending up feeling like they upset others.
For everyone the underlying issues are usually the same: we don’t fully understand why we react the way we do, and even if we do understand we don’t know how to change our responses.
The course happens over six, weekly group calls using Zoom (an awesome online video conferencing platform with breakout rooms and everything). It’s a mix of teaching, practice and dialogue.
On the course we explore:
The roots of conflict: how to recognise and deal with the trigger points and habitual patterns of unhealthy conflict.
The role of the body: how to understand what happens to your mind and body when triggered and regain control.
The power of language: how to maintain honesty and understanding without inflaming or appeasing.
The practice of healthy conflict: how to orient yourself in messy and difficult conversations using a clear method.
We talk models, we practice techniques, we explore our individual experiences and difficulties.
It’s both a philosophy and a deeply practical approach to being with conflict.
This is not conflict resolution. This is not how to win. This is how to maintain a position of being clear, honest and open when it feels like you want to run away or kick over the table.
How to stay in, stay open and move forward, together.
I run these courses because we’re all at a time, individually and collectively, where being comfortable with our differences and speaking the truth is more important than ever.
We have all the knowledge and awareness, and yet, in an age of filter bubbles and constant distractions, we risk becoming ever more fragile and disconnected.
The only thing in your way is not yet fully understanding your fears around conflict and not having had the tools or space to step past those boundaries and see that everything is still ok.
If you’d like to find more ease with speaking your truth, more comfort in hearing challenging views and more confidence in having the conversations that matter, then I’d like to teach you.
How to join
The next course starts on the 7th September, running 10am-12pm for six weeks.
The following and final course for 2018 will start on 8th November.
There are three tiers for pricing — personal, small biz and corporate depending on why you’re joining and who’s paying for it.
I leave it up to you to decide which fits your context and trust you entirely, but I’m happy to help if you feel stuck.
